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Investigating the history and use of “sick and tired”

By Kaare Askildt

            Sick and tired! How often did we hear this phrase spoken by our parents, usually our mothers, while we were growing up? It is not spoken as often these days. I was curious as to the origin of this phrase, but all I could find was that it was first spoken in the year 1775, according to Merriam Webster’s dictionary.

            I suppose in the 18th and 19th centuries, even up to the 20th century, it could have been very descriptive of how an overworked mother might have felt. Therefore, I surmise that it was first spoken by a mother suffering through an ailment that made her tired. Her husband, or one of her 18 children, could have asked her to do something for him, and all she could say would be, “can’t you see that I’m sick and tired?”

 A true meaning of the phrase indeed; from there on the phrase has been used extensively, but the meaning has changed somewhat over the years.

            More often than not it means to go away and leave me alone, as in СƵ very frustrated with a situation. For example, you’re struggling to get ahead financially, you’ve paid all the monthly bills, and have just enough money left for groceries. Every time you take one of your 18 children to the grocery store, the child bugs you for treats to share with the siblings.

You used to feel sad that you couldn’t afford to get any goodies, but after a while the feeling of sadness is overtaken by a feeling of frustration, and your reply will be, “I’m sick and tired of your constant nagging for treats. Go ask your grandma!”

You feel embarrassed, as all the other shoppers in the store stop and look.

            Fathers don’t usually use the phrase until the son is old enough to have gotten a driver’s license. Every Saturday he will ask to borrow the BMW, so he can impress the chicks. He might even have a hot date after promising a foxy chick a ride in the beemer. That’s when fathers get sick and tired.

And after about a year the dad is getting sick and tired of the son demanding to drive every time they are driving somewhere together, so he helps junior get the wheels of the young dude’s choice. Then the father might get sick and tired of handing over gas money, and also for paying when junior is wearing out tires, showing off to friends by burning donuts.

            Mothers might be getting worried when their sons start to date at the age of 12, but after getting his own wheels at 16, she gets sick and tired of her son sneaking back in the house early on Sunday mornings. She arranges a small pyramid of pots and pans right behind the door to her son’s bedroom. It is a crude alarm system, but when the cacophony of falling pots wakes her up, she sternly lectures her son saying that she’s sick and tired of him coming home at this hour.

            Apparently, some people use the phrase when they are bored, like junior’s date at a car race, watching the cars race around and around on an oval track. She gets bored watching the race cars, tells junior that she’s sick and tired of watching the race, and wants to go disco dancing. Junior’s idea of disco dancing is watching his feet and hum “dis goes here and dis goes there.”

            Ole and Lena had invited Sven and Kari over for a barbecue.  Ole and Sven were sitting in Ole’s backyard on a nice Saturday afternoon enjoying a few beers.

            “How are you doing?” asked Ole, “Are you still busy at work?”

            “Not really,” said Sven. “I left my job due to illness and fatigue.”

            “Wow! Sorry to hear that,” said Ole, “What happened?”

            “My boss got sick and tired of me.”

            Jens and his wife Sidsel were touring an art museum. Jens stood and stared at a statue depicting a nude Eve covering herself with a fig leaf. Sidsel looked at Jens standing there gawking, and said: “What’s the matter Jens, are you waiting for the fig leaf to fall?”

            Jens shook his head, glared at Sidsel and said: “I’m sick and tired of your lame jokes!”

            Sven had been to his local bar and was 10 sheets to the wind as he entered his house at 2 a.m. on a Saturday morning. His wife Kari was waiting for him in the kitchen. She looked at him and then at the wall clock.

“Why are you looking at the clock?” slurred Sven. “Are you boiling an egg?”

“I’m sick and tired of you coming home at this hour every Friday night!”

            Young Ole was visiting his relatives on a farm in the country. It was his first visit there alone, and his mother had made sure to tell him to just follow what the others did, and behave himself. Ole had to share a bed with his cousin Knut. The first night Knut was kneeling with a bowed head on his side of the bed. Ole following what his mother had told him. He knelt with a bowed head on the other side of the bed. Knut raised his head, looked at Ole and asked what he was doing.

“I’m just doing what you’re doing,” said Ole.

“Oh no!” said Knut. “Mom will get really mad. In fact she’ll probably be sick and tired of cleaning up, because the only potty is on this side.”

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