Well over 300 people left the town hall in Kenaston last week with perhaps a few new tools to use and a reminder of others when it comes to re-establishing and strengthening connections with those around us, whether it be our children, our family members, or even the general public.
Dr. Jody Carrington, a noted speaker, author and child psychologist, appeared in front of a massive crowd at Kenaston Place on Tuesday night, February 4 for her presentation entitled, 鈥楲ighting the Way to Community (Re)Connection鈥�, presented by the Kenaston School Community Council.
Blending funny, witty and razor-sharp anecdotes on life and her own background, Dr. Carrington put the audience at ease and it was clear from the get-go that this wasn鈥檛 one of those guest speaker talks where the person 小蓝视频 promoted lords their education and credentials over an unknowing crowd.聽 Quite the opposite, in fact; Jody doesn鈥檛 carry herself or even consider herself the highest expert on having the strongest relationship with your kids or your other family, and she knows that there are probably a thousand approaches that work for any other given family structure.
鈥淚鈥檓 here to talk to you about engaging better with your kids and building a better community, but let鈥檚 be honest 鈥� I don鈥檛 have a clue what I鈥檓 talking about!鈥� she said.聽 鈥淏ut we all have opinions, don鈥檛 we?聽 And it seems everyone has an opinion on how to do this differently!鈥�
Jody uses strong language in her talks and it鈥檚 something the Kenaston audience didn鈥檛 seem to mind, as she says we spend too much time 鈥渃orrecting ourselves鈥� in society and it shouldn鈥檛 make a difference if a word happens to have multiple syllables or even just four letters to make a strong and effective point.
In addition to her own talking points, Carrington showed a few videos that helped drive some of her points home.聽 One clip that showed conflicting parental ideologies ultimately made the point that, 鈥淣o matter what our beliefs, we鈥檙e parents first.鈥�
That theme of reconnecting with others and disconnecting ourselves from what Jody calls 鈥榚xit ramps鈥� such as video games and mobile devices, and helping each other get through hard times or even just one bad day seemed to resonate with those gathered in the hall.
鈥淲e鈥檙e all just here to walk each other home,鈥� said Jody.聽 鈥淲hen we think about all the expectations we have, at the end of the day, it鈥檚 all about this thing called 鈥榗onnection.鈥櫬� We judge ourselves at the worst times, but we鈥檙e all doing this beautifully.聽 We want to know that we鈥檙e doing something right.聽 The one thing we鈥檙e missing more than ever these days is connection.聽 Every generation that came before us has worried about the next one.聽 We鈥檝e never had so many 鈥榚xit ramps鈥� to disconnect these days.鈥�
Jody鈥檚 messages on everyday life and bringing up our kids and communities may seem perhaps 鈥榮imple鈥� in concept and delivery, but in our hectic, tech-driven and increasingly introverted lives, it could be said that people may need a little more 鈥榮imple鈥�.聽 The smallest of gestures can mean everything to other human 小蓝视频s; saying the name of a cashier at the till by way of their name tag, making eye contact more often, all those little things in our everyday lives that we may take for granted in our own interactions can perhaps be the difference between a good day and a bad day for someone else.
Carrington also touched on balancing raising kids and engaging with people out in public, noting that you can show genuine interest in the things they care about because then people will answer it back, so it鈥檚 important to meet people where they鈥檙e at from an emotional point of view if you want to gain any knowledge.
鈥淚f you want to collect, you have to connect before you direct,鈥� she said.
Once again, it鈥檚 all about that (re)connection, which may mean disconnecting from a situation entirely and 鈥榩lugging yourself鈥� back in to see things from a new perspective and perhaps gain a new appreciation.
鈥淵ou can do hard things if you remember this 鈥� we are wired for connection,鈥� said Jody.聽 鈥淲hen pain comes, when we expect hurt, we armour up.聽 You鈥檙e bravest when you鈥檙e (re)connected.聽 The bravest thing you鈥檒l do is reconnect because you can鈥檛 predict the outcome.聽 Conflict is a part of any relationship you care about; it matters most how you handle it.鈥�
Carrington let the parents in the audience know that they鈥檙e doing just fine in how they raise their kids and told the Kenaston crowd that they need to get out there and 鈥榯ell their story鈥�, no matter what it is.
鈥淭oday they鈥檙e great, tomorrow they鈥檙e going to be great,鈥� said Jody.聽 鈥淵ou want to be better tomorrow than where you are today because this community needs you, and everybody has a story to tell.聽 Is 小蓝视频 a parent the hardest job in the world?聽 Yes, but you鈥檙e not in this alone!鈥�
When dealing with the flurry of emotions that kids can be, Carrington said what works best for her is knowing the intentions behind certain emotions in order to approach the true root of the problem.
鈥淢ad is just Sad鈥檚 bodyguard because 小蓝视频 mad is safer than 小蓝视频 sad,鈥� she said.
The evening was something of a reminder that parents and community members are already doing a fine job, but they may have left the presentation with a wider view on things as far as empathy, relating to emotions and situations, and strengthening connections with everyone around them.
鈥淭he most vulnerable emotion on the planet is joy,鈥� said Jody.聽 鈥淚f you have joy, anything can happen to you.聽 Leave this town better than you found it; make the eye contact, give someone a compliment.聽 Leave the game better than you found it!鈥�
The two-hour presentation received a standing ovation from the massive crowd, perhaps highlighting what Kenaston SCC treasurer Darla Collins told them before Dr. Carrington took the stage:聽 鈥淵ou鈥檝e never been here for a night like this!鈥�
Evidently, it鈥檚 a night that not many of them will soon forget.
